and considering we spend around a third of our lives asleep, one would think we would be better at it. unfortunately, one would be wrong. “sleep is one of those rare things that you can’t try harder and get good at,” says mariani.
good sleep hygiene
the key to getting a good night’s rest is sending consistent signals to your body that lets it know when it’s time to shut things down. this begins with going to bed and waking up at the same time every day — even on weekends when your pillow won’t stop calling your name.
“that does two things,” says mariani. “it allows your body to get the seven to nine hours consistently at the same time every night, but it also instills a sleep rhythm in you that you can then help reinforce with other habits so that your body really gets the message that it is time to shut down.”
she also recommends exposing yourself yo natural light in the morning to further reinforce the fact it’s time to wake up. cutting off the flow caffeine by noon — earlier than the 2 p.m. deadline recommended by others another helpful strategy.
“caffeine has a lot of benefits but when you have it too late in the day, it will interfere with your ability to fall asleep and your ability to wind down later at night,” she says.
it’s also vital to retreat to a dark, cool room with a quality mattress — an investment worth making, if you can — and a weighted blanket, if you’re fortunate enough to have one.
and, no matter how much it hurts, you and your cellphone need to say your goodbyes at least an hour before bedtime. to do otherwise can send mixed signals to your brain that there’s more work to be done. “my phone stays in the kitchen,” mariani says. “we recharge separately.”
the road to wellness
a combination of these tips and a little behavioural therapy helped mariani overcome the insomnia that accompanied her type a personality growing up. “when i was working corporate, there were professionally intense periods where i went for probably several months on just three or four hours per night, which is so not sustainable and is so awful for your health. it just creeps into every aspect of your life,” she says.