maddie didn’t plan a legacy, but she left one anyway
i wonder if maddie ever thought about the legacy she would leave behind. would it have impacted her ultimate decision to leave this world if she knew?
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maddie’s legacy lives on in the quiet, powerful moments: a parent finding the courage to ask their child how they’re really feeling, a teen reaching out for help instead of staying silent, or a school committing to improving mental health resources.
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how maddie’s story continues to inspire change
i wonder if maddie ever thought about the legacy she would leave behind. would it have impacted her ultimate decision to leave this world if she knew? what better purpose can you have on this planet than to save lives?
when she turned 14, she was a bright, funny and curious soul, bursting with personality and motivated for her future. she had an attitude like any 14-year-old, but her smile was still bright most of the time. like so many teenagers, she was trying to find her place in a world that can feel both thrilling and overwhelming. she faced the ups and downs of adolescence with a spirit that was uniquely hers.
things started to take a sharper turn in the second half of her fourteenth year. persistent sadness, acting out, but most importantly, maddie lost that lightness and freedom she had always exhibited. it’s hard to get excited about changing the world when you feel like this.
and then she was gone.
i’ve understood how profound her impact has been in the years since her passing. maddie’s legacy wasn’t something she intentionally set out to create. it wasn’t born of careful planning or deliberate action. and yet, her life and story have left an incredible mark on so many. her legacy, while unintentional, is something we now carry forward with purpose and love.
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maddie’s story has sparked conversations about mental health, the importance of emotional awareness, and the ways we can better support our kids. she has brought people together who might never have connected otherwise: parents who’ve suffered unspeakable losses, educators rethinking how they approach mental health in schools, and advocates determined to break down stigmas. maddie’s legacy is a testament to how even the most challenging moments can be transformed into purpose.
sadly, maddie is not alone. thousands of families will lose a loved one to suicide this week. so many of their families honour their lost child by trying to help other families achieve a different outcome.
the unintended ripple effect
i often think about the ripple effect maddie has created. her life and story have inspired the creation of programs like mindgrade, which will hold schools accountable for their mental health initiatives, and the mentor well, which will connect teens with mentors who can guide them through life’s challenges. these initiatives were born from a desire to ensure no other family has to endure the same pain. this is purpose-driven by love and loss.
but maddie’s legacy isn’t just about the programs or advocacy. it’s in the way people speak more openly about mental health now. it’s how parents are more willing to have tough conversations with their kids. and it’s how communities are coming together to prioritize emotional well-being. these small shifts add up, creating a collective impact maddie likely never imagined.
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i’m humbled to be mentioned alongside other bereaved individuals who want to make a difference to help others.
legacy isn’t always intentional
for a long time, i struggled with the idea of legacy. we often picture grand gestures or monumental achievements when we think of legacy. but maddie’s legacy reminds me that it’s not about how much we plan or achieve; it’s about our impact on others, often in ways we’ll never fully understand.
she didn’t plan to change the world, but she has. maddie’s legacy lives on in the quiet, powerful moments: a parent finding the courage to ask their child how they’re really feeling, a teen reaching out for help instead of staying silent, or a school committing to improving mental health resources. these moments might seem small, but they’re everything.
carrying her legacy forward
maddie’s unintentional legacy reminds me of our responsibility to carry it forward. every conversation about mental health, a program designed to support kids, and small acts of kindness contribute to the world maddie deserved. we can’t change the past but can honour it by building a future where kids like maddie feel seen, heard, and supported.
maddie didn’t plan her legacy. but because of her, countless lives have been touched, changed, and even saved. her story reminds us that our actions, even the ones we don’t think twice about, can have a profound impact. she left a legacy of hope, connection, and love. and that’s something worth carrying forward.
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if this resonates with you, i encourage you to take a moment today to reflect on the legacy you’re creating. it doesn’t have to be big or planned. it just has to matter to you.
chris coulter is an accomplished author, renowned for his book “wake up, you could lose your teen to suicide.” as a passionate advocate for mental health, he has delivered impactful keynote speeches at numerous conferences. motivated by personal tragedy, chris lost his daughter, maddie, to suicide in april 2015. he currently serves as an advisor and formerly the executive director of how are you feeling, a non-profit organization focused on social-emotional learning, helping children navigate and comprehend their emotions effectively.
this article was originally published on january 9, 2025.
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