i would say, for my part, you don’t really have time to cope because you’re always making sure everything is ok. there are so many things that you need to look after. usually one of us would stay at a hospital and the other one would go home to sleep. even when it was my turn to go home, i couldn’t not think about it. i was always thinking about a possible solution.
there are some days that i’m still frustrated — i’m frustrated that everybody did their best, but still, things happened the way they did. alex oliver spent way too long at the hospital during a crucial time in his development — he was there between the age of two and almost three, so he lost a lot of precious time.
i think he’s stable now. but there are a lot of things that he can’t do. for example, with covid, he hasn’t been to school, so for him, it’s hard to always be here with me at home. you can see that he is anxious to go back to school because he likes seeing new people. i don’t think he’s mad, but we can’t really communicate with him because he has an intellectual disability. he’s seven years old, but mentally, he’s between one and two. so, i can’t ask him, are you happy today? we don’t really know, but i think generally speaking, he’s ok. but we can’t wait to give him some kind of a normal life.
alex oliver had the genetic disease birth, but it was only discovered when he was around 21 months old. supplied
what is a day in the life like for your family?
well, with covid, we’re pretty much always home. school is done virtually by a teacher, but i must always be with him because it’s not interesting for him and he doesn’t want to learn. i have to be with him to control the computer and to make sure that he listens.
a normal day is waking up at wee hours. this morning, we woke up at five o’clock. then we eat and i get him ready for school. then comes lunch, he takes a nap, and in the afternoon, we usually do homework. next is dinner, his bedtime routine and then sleep.
i cannot leave him unattended for too long. i’m always really close, for example, right now he’s watching youtube on my bed. i couldn’t go into another room because he could just fall [off] the bed since he doesn’t recognize danger. there must always be a parent with him when he’s awake. when he’s asleep, he has a special bed that is literally kind of a cage to make sure that he cannot [get] out of it and wander in the house, and possibly fall down stairs.