how did it all start?
one morning, she got dressed and found something that she hadn’t noticed last week or the day before—a lump in her breast.
“i kind of bypassed it. my husband said, ‘no, you better check this thing out.’ and lo and behold, i was diagnosed at the age of 38 with breast cancer,” says patricia, 60, who lives in alliston, ontario (a peaceful rural community where she can wave at the cows).
back then, nobody was really talking about breast cancer, she says, which was especially true among her caribbean african community. “what happens at home stays at home. so, we kept it very quiet. i told my siblings, and we navigated through that.”
although she has a close relationship with her mom, she couldn’t tell her about the diagnosis because her mom was halfway through her own breast cancer treatment. “i needed her to win. i needed her to come through,” she says, with emotion rising in her voice. and then a wide smile: “i’m so glad that i followed my gut and i told my siblings, don’t say anything to her because when we told her, she fell in our arms and she wept. and i just looked at her, and i said, ‘mom, guess what? i’m coming through. you’ve come through. i’m coming through.’”
again, patricia knows that words are powerful. she uses them to convey her strength and conviction.