how do you practice the goldilocks plan without overdoing it? well, you plan, pace, and reflect. pick one area, like walking, or grocery shopping. start below your threshold for the onset of symptoms. for example, if going into a grocery store and walking down an aisle causes you to feel a significant rise in symptoms (beyond 3-5 points on a distress scale), you have gone too far. start with a small exposure, such as walking into the grocery store and standing at the top of an aisle for a few minutes. once symptoms rise between 3-5 points, exit the store safely and take a few breaths. see how you feel later that day and the next morning. if you are okay, add a little bit more time to your next grocery store visit. if your symptoms really flared up a lot, modify your approach. next visit, try less time, or a less busy store, or even bring a support person with you to help you work through your fear and anxiety.
one thing to keep in mind with this method, is not to fear a small, short symptom increase. the evidence shows that mild symptom rises during activity are usually brief and do not slow recovery when you stay under your symptom limit. and the benefits are substantial, as you are teaching your nervous system that the world is safe again. with repeated exposure, your symptoms gradually dissipate and your recovery time improves; fear reduces, and you no longer feel the need to avoid activities.4,5
if you try this out and your fear remains high, or if the goldilocks plan feels overwhelming for you, please reach out for added support. speaking with a health coach, therapist, or clinician can help you tailor this approach to meet your needs. they can help you set goals, break tasks into small, manageable steps, and celebrate wins. recovery is not a straight line, and that is okay. keep moving forward, and over time, the challenges that feel heavy today will become lighter.